Happy Friday, my beautiful babes! Two really awesome things are going down right now. I am headed to a moon ceremony + I am featuring today on Tea Time the magical voice behind Out of The Woods, Brent Williams. I first read Brent’s book in earlier in October and felt an unreal connection with his journey.
Brent has such an amazing way with words, and really did put together a lot of what I feel like a lot of us experience when we suffer from depression and anxiety.
I feel like we should totally throw a virtually party, instead let’s have some tea and pick Brent’s brain a little.
TEA TIME: BRENT WILLIAMS
Hey Brent, welcome to tea time, if you could please give us a little glimpse into what inspired you to write your book?
I wrote to make sense of what was happening to me. I wrote to express my feelings. I wrote to see and monitor the things that were really helping me get out of the grip of anxiety and depression.
You wake up, what’s the first thing you do in the morning?
I like to tune in to my body’s needs and this can be different each morning. Some mornings I lie on my back for a few minutes and watch my breath going slowing in and out of my nose and filling my belly. Other morning I get up and go for a swim or a walk.
It’s so true, all mornings can be different and it is amazing how well connected your are with your body.
Do you find that those experiencing mental health issues first blame themselves, as if they have done something wrong? I know I did for a long time.
Blaming yourself is the very strong and destructive voice of depression. It will want you to listen to it all day and night keeping you feeling worthless, exhausted and depressed. It is not real but you need good help to see this and over time learn healthy ways of thinking and behaving.
If and when you’re anxious, what are some of your go- to strategies to alleviate the feeling?
First I breath. Slowly, gently, in through my nose down into my belly and then out again. Quite quickly this tells my brain it is safe and can calm down. It also tunes me into my body and I can feel what I need to do to look after myself, like going for a swim. The exercise replaces the anxiety with a feeling of wellbeing. It is so powerful when you see how you can change your mood with a simple breathing and exercise and this in and of itself is uplifting.
I am definitely going to have to try this, I personally use a lot of breath work to help balance my mood and help me through anxious times.
What is the one thing that’s always on your shopping list?
Oats. Simple organic oats. I soak them at night with coconut and raisins, then I have bircher muesli all ready to go in the morning along with some fresh fruit. It sustains me for hours without the high and lows of processed sugar. In the winter I can heat it if I feel like something warming.
It’s mind-blowing how processed sugars and foods can affect our mood. Love this little breakfast of yours.
If you’re on your dream vacation, where are you?
I am with a friend in a beautiful old forest, swimming in a clear mountain river.
Wow, that sounds incredible!
What does balance mean to you?
Balance is seeing the ups and downs of life and my reaction to them, not being thrown around by them. It’s letting go, not trying to control and limit my life. And it’s a feeling what I need to do to look after myself and from there being able to love and care for others.
If you have one day entirely to yourself, no phone, no prior commitments, family get-togethers, what would you spend that day doing?
After years of withdrawing from life, my greatest joy is to now connect with people. So my day are of commitments would be full of fun with a close friend: conversation, dancing, music, walking in nature- loving life.
I entirely know that feeling of withdrawing from life, after being away for so long, all I want to do is be able to find a way to make a difference so others don’t have to hit the point of darkness and no return I felt for so long.
What is your favorite quote?
“Treat others as you would like to be treated- with kindness, tolerance and respect”
Thank you so much Brent for joining us virtually for tea time, it was incredible being able to connect with you and read your story. If you havent read Brent Williams book, I highly recommend it. It has been such an joy and positive addition to my life. I hope you all have a wonderful weekend! Xo